Archive for October, 2009

Delegated Parenting

October 26, 2009

“The Spolit Generation” a new book about families written by Dr Aric Sigman,  a Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine and an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society, includes a chapter entitled “Delegated Parenting”. Here are some quotes: (more…)


Unorthodox but appealing

October 19, 2009

Why is stay-at-home motherhood portrayed as a vocation of last resort?

Click here for more from this US site.

‘Women wreck their careers by taking a year’s maternity leave’

October 17, 2009

The Evening Standard reports:

Women are wrecking their chances of making it to the top by taking their full 12 months maternity leave, a high-flying female financier has warned.

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Prolonged absence from any job – and for any reason – harms careers: that’s just common sense.  Long maternity (and paternity) leave causes difficulties for the takers themselves, other employees and the business. Of course, having a parent devoted long-term to bringing up his or her own children has its own advantages.

FTM AGM – London, November 6th

October 13, 2009

We are delighted that Sue Palmer, author of Toxic Childhood and 21st Century Boys (see review in current Newsletter) has accepted our invitation to come and speak. The title of her talk is “DETOXING CHILDHOOD – What Parents Can Do”. Click here for more.

Childcare swaps ‘outside rules’

October 13, 2009

Inspectors should not interfere in private arrangements between friends looking after each other’s children, says Children’s Secretary Ed Balls. Click here for more.

It was astonishing that anyone ever thought otherwise. Mr Balls says that where there is no payment involved there need be no regulation. But that admits the law is poorly drafted – it can’t be changed by a politician making a ruling on the spur of the moment. We aren’t in a banana republic, Mr Balls.

Hang on a minute: even if payment were involved, why is regulation necessary? How about if you paid a long-standing family friend, whom you trusted, whose style of parenting was in line with your own and the arrangement was mutually beneficial? How on earth is that any of the government’s business?

What women REALLY want: Forget the working Superwoman ideal, mothers value spending time at home with their children most of all

October 9, 2009

The Daily Mail (now, now, don’t shoot the messenger) suggests that, according to a new report, “Women do not want highpowered careers and find more fulfilment in motherhood than work” .

Of course, high-powered careers are available to only a few of us, men or women.

Click here for the full story. Click here for the BBC’s take on it.

The Sexual Paradox: Men, Women and the Real Gender Gap

October 5, 2009

This new book apparently, “… turns several  assumptions upside down:  that the sexes are biologically equivalent, that smarts are all it takes to succeed and that men and women have identical interests and goals.”

Why did we ever believe otherwise?