Archive for March, 2010

The Guardian notices FTM

March 30, 2010

Our website here was cited by this article in The Guardian. Perhaps research for it prompted the huge spike in site traffic in the past few days.

Personality disorders? I blame the nursery

March 30, 2010

Putting children in nursery before they are two harms their emotional health, says a new book by a child psychologist

Click here for this Times article – which also include a quote from Oliver James, FTM’s patron.

Children have ‘nobody to talk to’

March 30, 2010

Maggie Atkinson, the children’s commissioner for England, says – quoted in this BBC news story:

Are we meant to provide [children] with an activity to fill very waking hour and a room full of technology, but nobody close to them who has the time either to talk to them, or to fathom life out with them?”

Is new technology is really the main problem leaving children apparently more lonely than ever – or is it that busy parents are struggling to find time to spend with their children? Could it also be that we assume teenagers don’t need us any longer, allowing them to spend hours in front of screens, when in fact older children really need time to talk and build relationships?

Successive governments have thought – and structured the tax and benefits system accordingly – that parents should be in paid employment and away from their children.

A generation of women bred to work

March 16, 2010

Click here for this Sunday Times article. It includes the following:

Yet the drudgery of cleaning and cook­ing and child-rearing, it has now transpired, was important skilled labour. So skilled, in fact, that we now need television programmes to show us how to clean our lavatories, rear our children and cook our dinners. The most basic housekeeping skills — such as working out a weekly budget and sticking to it — seem to have eluded us. Debt? Our grandmothers did not know what that meant. Could they have imagined their granddaughters would spend half a month’s wages on a handbag and the other on Marks & Spencer’s ready meals? Or throw out a perfectly good blouse because of a missing button, or not know how to bake a batch of buns without looking up a recipe in a lavishly illustrated cookbook?

What our mothers neglected to tell us was that women had been keeping the show on the road for centuries. Our skills as homemakers were important. Nourishing our children, managing the money, the traditional crafts of knitting and sewing — these were not simply things we had to do, but creative occupations that added as much value to family life as the money the men bought it. Or, as we are discovering now, more.

What women want is an end to hectoring by feminists

March 15, 2010

This Times article  includes the following:

Harman’s thinking, like the feminist orthodoxy in the government, is based on the following assumptions, which have always seemed quite wrong to me.

First, that all women want to work (for money, outside the home). Second, that all women, including mothers, ought to work. Third, that all women want to do and are equally suited to doing the same work as men. Fourth, that if the number of women working in an organisation is less than 50% of the total, that is in itself evidence that women are being unjustly discriminated against. Fifth, that motherhood is a problem that makes it difficult for women to work. Sixth, that the problem of motherhood can easily be fixed by paid childcare, subsidised if necessary by the state. Seventh, that what all mothers want above all is “affordable childcare” to enable them to work: children don’t need much of their attention. And finally, that it is for the state to sort out all such family matters.

That seems a pretty fair summary.

Labour hasn’t given working mothers what they really need

March 12, 2010

Click here for this article about how “The Government’s child-care policies are formulated by women who are out of touch with reality”.

Ordinary mothers ‘deserting Labour over its career-woman policies’

March 11, 2010

Click here for this article from The Telegraph.

The implosion of a high flyer

March 4, 2010

Click here for this story of how a mother earning a seven-figure salary in the City could not cope with separation from her new baby. This illustrates how strong the maternal bond can be and how women continue to be surprised at how they change once they become mothers.

“Imitating men can’t be the way forward for women. That way they are bound to fail.”

March 1, 2010

In this Guardian article, Hilary Mantel – an author – suggests that the age at which women have children is being based on a timetable more suitable for men.